Benson,Dorcas and I end each day with deep discussions and prayer….
Today it continued to be in the a.m…..so I will share with you guys !

We we discussing women….
Women in ministry
Women as wives….and men as husbands
Women as Moms……
Men as Dad’s

Benson said, there is a deep truth in God’s Word , mum…

Song of Solomon 1: 6
” Look not upon me, because I am black, because the sun hath looked upon me;
my mother’s children were angry with me;  they made me keeper of the vineyards;
but mine own vineyard have I not kept.”

The black of her skin showed how much time she had spent keeping care of something else
other than her own….

Sometimes we can get wrapped up in even the “other vineyards” with true concern ! ~ Africa….
but it is NEVER to come before how I ” keep”  Rock, my home….our family…..

We discussed how Pastors do not want even their families to come between…
even what God has asked them to do.

Not just Pastors…..but us in general…..
our own desires….our own wants….our own service unto the LORD…….

** Question :  ” what did God give us first to take care of the best ? ”

Our conclusion was our own family:  our own husbands
our own wives
our own children
our own grandchildren
our own homes…….

We talked of how we truly VIEW.our calling to our own vineyard
…in all truth…..in our own minds…
our own hearts….how we view this calling:
” OUR OWN VINEYARD FIRST”

Do we count it an honor from God Himself …..and our own vineyards are kept…
kept…….kept…… Our husbands feel cherished, honored…first…
Our own children feel heard, taken care of , spent time with, truly loved
Our homes…..kept.

That our husbands are the pillar of our homes…..
That they are “head of our home” , by God’s design…..

How many times…..men do not take this role seriously…
as God speaking to~~ them…
for the care of their own family/ vineyard….

To RISE UP…..take the helm…..
Benson said :   ” all men are born men….but you  choose to be a man”

We talked if this is not kept in line..:
If a woman does not take great pleasure in being under her husbands authority…
The grace of God does not fall on the marriage…..

(in Kenyan application , smile )

If a woman takes the reigns of the donkey cart….and stands and whips and whips …
it will take much effort and she will tire of whipping and working.
as the man sits and lets her whip….. ( he is not taking his role )
It will take much effort, more than is needed.

If a woman would sit down and let the man drive the cart…….
where he ,  by God’s design was to be placed…..
Then the effort is little….and the Grace of God…falls on that cart,
that marriage.

We can spend much effort trying to get our husbands to where we think they should be…
as a person,  as in what we want to “do”…..what ever…..

Benson said :  ” I heard someone preach….if it is to be the will of God…..
God will speak to the wife
God will speak to the man
with no prodding”…..

Then the man can ask his wife :  What is God been speaking to you?
Then the wife can ask the husband :  What is God been speaking to you ?

And it is there……. the GRACE of GOD….will be in where they are going…..

He unveiled…a deep revelation to me :
Many men….have watched their grandfathers be a husband to their grandmother……
they loved their grandmother….they watched
Many men …have watched their fathers be a husband to their moms…….whom they
loved…….they watched….

If that male figured was wrong in any way…..then they would say….
I will not treat my wife that way,
and sometimes as they are a husband they will not even stand strong enough…..
because their father/ grandfather…..abused the ” role” as husband…

The same way goes for women….
We watched our grandmothers be a wife to our grandpa’s …who we loved so much…
we watched…
We watched our Mother’s and how they treated our FAther’s…who we loved so much..
we watched…..
Then as we became a wife…..we either did not stand strong enough…..because our Mother’s were
too strong against our Dad’s……or …or…
WE…stand too strong ….because our Mother’s were not strong enough…so we became x-tra STRONG…

” It is the ~ ” I will never…and where it comes from…..that has a hold on our lives ”

I thot………….wow………….deep truth

The true GRACE of God…..is how HE has designed us to work
How the Word of God says
and we are to take the blood of JESUS over our past…..
over the workers of satan….that things were out of whack in our parents….
what ever…
And it is only  THE BLOOD OF JESUS….that will set us free….
Free to be our OWN FAMILY…..take care of OUR OWN VINEYARD….

In the freedom of hearing straight from God HIMSELF…into our own families…..
I pray this blessed you as much as it did me…..
May I be a wife, from God Himself……
May I be a Mom a Grandma….unto my own vineyard…..my own home….
and it is KEPT….before I go out….. ( still need to go out …smile )

Women’s Meetings today…..may God Himself…let us all live in the freedom…
HIS SON,died to give us…amen ?      !